The partner will need to learn how to stop enabling the sex addict and how to focus on her/himself, and how to take stands or draw boundaries that actually work.
A phrase that is used to describe a woman or a man in relationship with a sexual addict is a codependent of a sex addict, or co-addict.
The underlying reason for such a belief is the co-addict's conviction that no one could love her for herself, just as she is, that she must earn love and devotion.
The sexual addict is a person who tries to use sex to fill non-sexual needs.
Sex becomes not an expression of love in a mature relationship, but rather a compulsive (and often highly ritualized) response to the emotional stresses of life.
She may constantly worry about what he thinks about her and try extremely hard not to make a mistake.
Because of these self-defeating characteristics, the co-addict usually is much more in tune with what someone else wants than with her own wants and needs.
To "please and keep her man" the co-addict will often attempt to become indispensable to the addict.
Not surprisingly, with the need to be indispensable, the co-addict's most constant emotional state is one of fear.
Thus, internet sex has been referred to as the "crack cocaine" of sex addiction.
Sexual addition is extremely destructive, both to the individual and to the marriage partner.
Her main goal in life is to try to figure out what her partner wants, and then give it to him.
To assure success at pleasing, she may become extremely sensitive to the momentary mood of her partner.
The co-addict, in an effort to please the addict, may do the following things.