-Alternate week plan week 1 with Mom, week 2 with Dad, and so on.
Infants usually remain in primary care of the mothers, but toddlers and preschool-age children actually benefit from switching back and forth between households.
"These days we have so many tools with which to organize custody," Wasser says.
"There are Google calendars, icalendars, cell phones, texting, and emailing - all which provide parents with the ability to communicate with each other quickly." Pisarra directs his clients to the website Our Family Wizard.com, which offers joint calendars, expense logs, common document storage for things like a child's immunization record or school calendar, and a message board that keeps an accurate and non-modifiable record of your communications that can be admitted in court, if disagreements arise. Parenting is hard enough on its own, and co-parenting adds another layer of complexity.
Things like food choices, unless there's a known medical issue like diabetes or food allergies, are not worth the fight." Save your energy and good will with your ex and the courts for those things that do matter.
A child experiences lots of change during a divorce.
Remove your emotions from the situation and look at the facts. The academic and extracurricular activities to which your children are committed 5.
When deciding on a custody arrangement, you'll want to take the following into consideration. Your child-care arrangements and the distance between the parents' homes.
"What you say about the ex is what the child will react to, and also think about themselves." Even though you may be pissed at your ex, your child still loves him or her as a parent.
Regardless of your feelings about your ex - justified or not - keep them to yourself.
"Fight only for the things that are worth fighting for.