Over the past few months, I’ve interviewed various foreign women who’ve actually dated Japanese men.
Thus it’s tremendously important to focus on non-verbal subtle signs, like shy eye contact or by behaving a bit awkward.
Japanese language itself is quite a subtle language.
The majority of Japanese men admit that they’re never saying the “3 little words” (I love you).
They hardly ever give compliments such as “You look so beautiful today.” As a woman, if you never get to hear such words, it makes you feel insecure and unloved.
In Western culture it’s quite common that the man is the one approaching the woman. That’s simply because a lot of Japanese men are quite shy, even more so with foreign girls.
I’d say it’s not a problem if you’re shy as a Japanese woman.
Meetings are too long, too frequent and energy is being wasted on redundant, often unnecessary tasks.
If it weren’t for those things, we could actually go home much earlier!
In my opinion, it’s necessary that foreign women become more pro-active. This might be scary at first, especially if you’ve grown up in an environment where it was ok to play the “shy girl”.