Easton, who is 73, was coming out of a traumatic relationship in during the summer of love in 1969 and decided that the only way for her to live from thereon out was by "being a slut.I was never going to be monogamous again," she says.
The two Canadian teenagers didn't yet have the language for what it is they wanted."This was pre-Internet forum, pre-all of that stuff. All that she and her then-boyfriend knew was that they liked each other a lot, and they didn't feel the need to be exclusive."We had a conversation where we both realized, ' I don't care if you flirt with other people,'" she says about the beginning of their relationship. I love that side of you." She and her boyfriend were both extroverted, social people, and flirting with other people just felt natural.
Heather, who identifies as queer, liked that she could continue to explore that side of her sexuality with other women. Her boyfriend started to date a woman he worked with at a restaurant, and when Heather met her at a holiday party, she realized she was attracted to her, too.
Today, polyamory is less tied to one specific subculture or identity.
In the two decades since the first edition of The Ethical Slut has been published, polyamory has expanded into a practice that, if not outright mainstream, is at least much more widely accepted and understood.
At the scene where the couple hesitates over the billionaire's offer, Hardy wondered if she was having a fever dream.
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The idea of a communal lifestyle appealed to her, so she took her newborn daughter and found a home in a queer community in San Francisco.
She joined a group called San Francisco Sex Organization and taught her first class on unlearning jealousy in 1973.
The three of them entered a relationship together that lasted just under a year.
The Ethical Slut describes this relationship model as a triad, but at the time neither Heather nor her partners knew that."That was one of our first experiences that wasn't a casual or one-time thing," she says.
Later, she ran into another friend who relayed an overheard conversation from the conference.