On the other hand, you should not be asking permission from your child to date someone. Putting your child in the role of parental decision maker is not healthy for either of you.
When it comes to dating after divorce, parents are in the driver's seat.
If you learn that your new partner is doing any of the following, check it out.
Children deserve to be comfortable and safe in their own home.
Take things slowly and give everyone the time they need to adjust to this new world of dating after divorce.
How long after my divorce should I wait before I begin dating?
It is also critical that you remain in the role of parent and not turn into your child's best friend where you each gush about your new girl or boyfriend. Every child will react in his or her own way to a parent's dating after the divorce.
And as has been stated many times on this site, knowing your child will always help you better understand what may be going on for him/her.
Just as you like to spend time with your special friends, I also want some time to be with my friends."With pre-teens and young teens (11-14) you can broach the topic of dating after the divorce. I'm wondering how you feel about me starting to date." Note: This does not mean that you are asking your child's permission to date. You are simply initiating discussion that is likely to be ongoing.
This is a good time to reassure your child that even though you are beginning to go out on dates, you will still always reserve time for just the two of you.
With teens (15-20) it is important to be honest about your actions. It's been long enough after the divorce that I am ready to meet some new people.
I'm wondering how you feel about that." Since your teens are also likely dating, it is important to talk with them about how it may be awkward to have a parent dating at the same time. How will my children be affected by my decision to date?
It takes anywhere from 1-3 years for individuals to emotionally recover from divorce.