Wednesday night youth group meetings served as our own opportunities to play "Love Connection," a game that resulted in broken hearts littering the foyer. Since I was the only one in the youth group who had the nerve to talk to her, she wound up liking me. After my folks were asleep, Kelly and I would spend hours on the phone, often late into the night, talking about everything and nothing in particular. We knew we couldn't be as close physically as we were emotionally. "No, it's over." We broke up two years after we'd met. Something Better I was seventeen years old when my relationship with Kelly ended. " God answered that plea, but not in the way I had expected.
The basis of this new attitude is what I call "smart love." Paul describes this kind of love in Philippians 1:9-10: And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ.
Smart love constantly grows and deepens in its practical knowledge and insight; it opens our eyes to see God's best for our lives, enabling us to be pure and blameless in His sight.
Over the past four years, I've come to understand that God's lordship doesn't merely tinker with my approach to romanceit completely transforms it.
God not only wants me to act differently, He wants me to think differentlyto view love, purity, and singleness from His perspective, to have a new lifestyle and attitude.
Sentimental Gush The Message paraphrases Philippians 1:9-10 this way: "Learn to love appropriately.
You need to use your head and test your feelings so that your love is sincere and intelligent, not sentimental gush." Have you ever been guilty of "sentimental gush," allowing your emotions to dictate the course of a dating relationship? Instead of acting on what they know is right, couples let their feelings carry them away. While dating, I made many decisions based on superficiality and ignorance. Those were some pretty lofty promises you made at the altar today. Have you told her all the sweet things you used to whisper in my ear?The physical intimacy of those junior high relationships had nothing to do with love or real affection. In high school, I got serious about my walk with God and became actively involved in the church youth group.Does sincerity motivate the girl who leads a guy along then breaks up with him when she finds someone better? In recent years, I've tried to let sincere and intelligent love guide me, and as I've done this, I've come to some pretty intense conclusions for my life.I've come to realize that I have no business asking for a girl's heart and affections if I'm not ready to back up my request with a lifelong commitment. But with what I've learned as I've sought God's will for my life, I know that a relationship right now wouldn't be best for me or for the one I'd date. God wants us to seek guidance from scriptural truth, not feeling. " This is the awesome part: When we make God's glory and other people's needs our priority, we position ourselves to receive God's best in our lives as well. In the past I made the starting point of my relationships what I wanted instead of what God wanted. I not only hurt others, I hurt myself, and, most seriously, I sinned against God.Soon, a chain of six girls stood by him as he repeated his vows to Anna. Going out with someone came to mean you made out with that person, too.