like randomly approaching strangers and demanding that they get coffee with you.
But now that you’ve had some time to try things out…
The subject line of the emails then proves to be an initial filter.
You know your way around a camera, you’re an excellent dancer, you play classical guitar, you have awesome tattoos, you make a killer chicken almondine.
Personally, at the end of this I like to say something along the lines of “…and I’m modest too! No, But Seriously: You drop the slightly cocky facade to be real: she seems like a cool person.
Now that you’ve had a week or two to write up your profile and dip your toe into the world of online dating, it’s time to take a step back and take stock. Even a terse “Fuck off, cave troll” means that at least you’re being heard. It’s one of those times that makes you feel like you’re ready to scrap the whole idea and try your hand in places where you might have more success…
Or are you sending a lot of messages out into the void, never to be heard from again? Much like in real life, the only reaction that really infuriates is reaction.
Personally, I’ve written things like “Pirates Are Much Cooler Than Ninjas” or “Who Ordered The Large Cheese Pizza, Double Anchovies”; anything that comes to mind.
It helps you to stand out from all the people who title their emails “Hi”, “Ur Hottt” or “I Like You.” Being unique works in your favor here and ups your chances of being deleted unread.
You want her to know that you a) have a life and b) have your shit together.
In one paragraph, describe a little about you that makes special.
That’s life; goes 5 for 5 when they’re approaching women, online or off.
Knowing what you’re saying in advance and the messages you’re conveying, however, will improve your chances.
” A little self-aware humor goes a long way; you don’t take this too seriously. You wanted to say “hey” and let her know that you’d love to get to know her.