When they hear that they can have things to say by elaborating on the details of their lives, or the little things going on in their heads, some people reply with, "I don't feel like I have anything worth mentioning." They think their job is uneventful and boring, or that their thoughts and opinions aren't interesting. It could be a drama or a comedy, but either way you've got to wring some entertainment out of your day-to-day routine.
I just covered how the people close to you do value your views on these things. Taking on this perspective can force you to hone in on the interesting stuff. Sometimes one partner won't be as talkative as the other, or great at sharing the little details of their lives.
If you have trouble opening up to your partner, it's something you can practice.
You may need to apply one of the points above (i.e., you're worried that they'll reject your 'boring' or 'weird' thoughts, or you don't know how to identify all the shareable details in your life).
For example, a man who lives with his girlfriend may get home from work and spend ten minutes getting her caught up on the status of an important project he's working on.
There are always going to be new things happening to you in one way or another, so you'll always have fresh material to talk about. A woman could tell her friend about what she thought of the latest episode of a show they both follow, or share her views on a story she heard on a the radio, or give a report on a conflict that's happening between her relatives.
In another article I give some advice on how to generally think of things to say.
For most people, if they struggle to make chit-chat, it's when they're first talking to a person they've recently met.They'll have a lot of drilled-down topics they can go into.If they start discussing something on their own you can listen attentively.They want to know what makes you tick, and what you think about various things.They've already decided they think your worldview and opinions are worthwhile, otherwise they wouldn't have wanted to get to know you as well as they did. Everyone has subjects they'll never be particularly fascinated by, even if on another level they think it's cute that the other person is passionate about them. Yeah, when you answer all these questions, your career may still not make for scintillating dinner party discussion, but I hope I've shown that if you dig a little there are things about it to speak about, especially if you're talking to someone who's open to hearing about it.However, if you start breaking it down, there may be more about it to talk about than you think. Like I mentioned before, they're in a relationship with you.