You see a picture, you read a profile, and you start to get excited. Suddenly, you’re flirting like crazy, eagerly anticipating his every response. You know that dates are rarely as promising as the buildup. By the second week, the cute guy had already written to her. ) Soon, they were bantering back and forth multiple times a day, and he started to plot their first date. When the cute guy Googled Sandy’s hometown, he was surprised to learn that she lived 3 hours away.
However, as you know, I can no more stop men from being men than I can stop the earth from turning.
As such, your lesson, as a woman, is not to wish men acted another way, but to understand how they DO act and prepare yourself emotionally.
The point is that, by getting too excited about a promising dating prospect, you’re emotionally setting yourself up for heartbreak. When you choose to be devastated by a man who is NOT your boyfriend, what you’re really doing is holding onto the loss of your fantasy.
You’re not really mourning the loss of a guy you never had.
It’s the difference in feeling between losing a million dollars (devastating) vs.
the feeling of NOT winning the lottery at all when you had 4 numbers (mildly irritating). When the contract is signed, the ink is dry, and you know, without a doubt, that your dating prospect has become your BOYFRIEND.
No longer will each flaky and disappointing man derail you.
You’ll be able to bounce back and persevere instead of quitting. 🙂 I guess I figured that most guys would turn out to be flakes.
I’ve had women tell me to chastise men to start following through more, to stop being so nice if they’re not ready for a relationship, to promise to call after having sex.