“Older men tend to become cruel over time, and [Marcus] was so refreshing,” Wipp, who lives in Detroit, tells The Post.“[Younger men] don’t have the weight of the world [on their shoulders] yet.” But initially, Wipp held off on dating Sutherland because she was wary of the numbers on his driver’s license. I really had a mental struggle dating someone younger than me,” she says.“You’re less likely to date a younger guy who’s been divorced, has children or has sexual performance issues.” In 2011, she met Juan Cabrera, now 34, at one of her mixers and soon fell in love. “Millennial men are career-focused and want to travel with successful women and conquer the world together,” says Soletti, who notes she’s seen an uptick in established women signing up specifically to meet younger bucks at her speed-dating events.
When it came to finding love in New York, Amber Soletti, a 42-year-old who lives in the West Village, had no luck dating older guys or men her own age.
While they were “well-established and articulate,” she wasn’t physically attracted to them and found they had too many issues.
Do men actually ENJOY the endless tedium and stress of going on a string of disappointing dates? (This does not mean that I look down on single people or think you should be in an unsatisfying relationship so, please, spare me the complaints.) But what gets me the most excited, Elaine, is that you’ve forced me to consider something that I’ve never actually considered before: Why Don’t Men Hate Being Single As Much as Women Do?
Or does it all simply come down to the capriciousness of the female orgasm – since men can have an orgasm with practically anyone, they don’t much care who they’re with, whereas if a woman finds someone who’s actually good in bed she’s desperate to hang on to him?! My assistant says it’s because when they’re single, they can play video games and watch porn, and if they got a girlfriend, she’d insist they give up one or both. So, together, let’s consider why men are generally cooler with being single than women: 1. As I observed in “Why He Disappeared”, this tends to be the way that men deal with most of their relationships.
They were introduced by Sutherland’s sister, who was one of Wipp’s law school classmates, at a beachside barbecue.
Wipp was immediately attracted to Sutherland’s youthful energy, which was a far cry from the cynical guys closer to her age.
“Even with the age gap, I’ve never quite met anyone like him,” she says.
Why don’t men hate being single as much as women do?
Why aren’t they just as keen as we are to know “where things are going” early on in the relationship? I particularly love your list of what sucks about being single.