Yet, for me, as the night wore on, the hubbub became annoying and tiring—even punishing—as I became overstimulated.
It powers our abilities to think deeply, reflect, and focus intensely on just one thing for a long period of time.
It also helps explain why introverts like calm environments—it’s easier to turn inward when we’re not attending to external stimulation.
It is more active in the brains of extroverts than in the brains of introverts as Scott Barry Kaufman, the Scientific Director of At the expectation of, say, getting the phone number of an attractive person or earning a promotion at work, extroverts become more energized than introverts.
They buzz with an enthusiastic rush of good feelings, while introverts feel overstimulated.
Yet, given how my introverted brain works, it makes sense that after a few hours of stimulation and socializing, I needed to get out of there.
It’s not that I dislike people; it’s just that socializing is more effortful and tiring for me than it is for extroverts.Our muscles relax; energy is stored; food is metabolized; pupils constrict to limit incoming light; and our heart rate and blood pressure lower.Basically, our body gets ready for hibernation and contemplation—two of the things introverts like the most.Just me, no noise, maybe a good book or the Internet to help me turn inward and recharge after this much socializing.Yet, my extroverted friends could probably stay at the concert, chatting long past the encore.I’m standing in the crowd in front of the stage at the small gritty music club.