They go to the same college, live together, sit together, and rush home to each other nightly.
I feel that they are both missing out on being young people even though their relationship is really happy. Personally, I have no need or want to “experience” multiple people and I definitely don’t see that as the point of college.
As a freshman girl, eligible cuties seem to be everywhere, and guess what? The attention can be fun, but when it comes down to it, the dating game in college is one that you’ll learn a lot about as time goes on—you might not be a pro right off the bat.
College is supposed to be the best four years of your life.
It’s supposed to be the time when teenage boys and girls “find themselves”, when they start to mature, make a whole new set of friends, go out and have fun, have new experiences, and generally just have a great time.
When tempted to engage in “dormcest,” remind yourself that you’re going to have to face him—as well as everyone else on your floor, because they’re going to find out—for the rest of the year, no matter how good or bad your hook-up was.
Just because he’s sitting alone and doesn’t speak to anyone in the class doesn’t mean he’s a total lunatic.
The puppy dog thing will get old after a while, leaving him feeling stupid/angry and you feeling unfulfilled, annoyed and guilty – not to mention that other guys you might actually become interested in will get the wrong idea.
They’re part of the college lifestyle, and you can choose if you want to engage in them or not (certainly, you can avoid making out with the guy you’ve been dancing with all night if you’re just not that into it).
With that said, I don’t think everyone HAS to do this to get the “complete college experience.” I live in a dorm, I stay up all night to study, I starve, I overeat, I’m poor, I make new friends nearly every day, etc. If you’re looking for a time in your life to be free, do what you want and be single, then college is that time.
But if you’re already in a happy and committed relationship, you shouldn’t feel like you to break up with that person just because you’re going to school.
And hey, maybe he’s even smart and organized enough for you to make him your “study buddy.” Study dates are pretty much the best dates most college girls can hope for within the first month or so of school (news flash: college guys are usually cheap).
It’s not fair to the guy if you’re just not that into him, but you keep him around because he’s, like, obsessed with you.
If you’re interested, all it takes is a slow pack-up-and-hang-back after class to initiate conversation.