Ask yourself how desperate for a relationship you are. In addition to the warning signs, here are some commonalities among scammers. They are not all over the Internet—you cannot find them on Facebook or any other sites. They must travel overseas shortly after meeting you.
Remember, they have a plethora of these, but not necessarily of these traits. They state they love you before meeting you in person.
Often they’re scamming more than one person at a time because they can make a lot of money out of these scams.
Once they’ve worked to gain the trust of the person they’ve targeted, they will use various stories to get money or details from that person.
When making contact with you, they start by complimenting you on your looks. This is a statement that everyone wishes to hear, but how do you know if it’s real?
Wouldn’t we rather be complimented on accomplishments or what our goals are? Charlatans tell you they love you before they have ever actually met you. Some people can sound great on the phone, but when you meet them there is nothing there; or, physically they just don’t meet your standards. The other part of the “I love you” scam is when they will say something like, “Something in me shifted, and I love you,” or, “I think I have found my soul mate.” Again, they have yet to meet you, and there hasn’t been enough time to know you well enough to truly love you in the way you wish to be loved. There is a reason they wish for you to contact them directly and not use e-mail via the dating site.
Think about your friendships—do they ask you about your financials? Did the person go to a boat dock and simply stand in front of a great looking boat and have their picture taken? One of the more popular scams is to pretend to be a resident who has either recently moved to the states in the last two years, or who is in the process of moving to the states.
Did they ask a realtor to show them an expensive house and then have their picture taken at the house? They get called back to their home country, or South Africa, to do a lucrative job, with either really important people or for a really good commission or a big paycheck. Don’t they have friends or family that could help them out if the situation was true?
How can someone honestly love you before having met you in person? How can someone want to spend the rest of their life with you when they have known you less than a month? You are using a dating site to protect your privacy and help you avoid scammers.
Don’t fall for whatever their reason is to write to them directly prior to meeting them in person. They don’t answer the questions asked in your emails. Another indication that something problematic is going on is when there is distance between where you both live — and they aren’t advocating a meeting.
In the age of online dating, it’s not uncommon to hear of well-intentioned users being taken advantage of by skilled con artists.
However, it’d be pretty hard to argue that that’s the case here, because this woman immediately sent 0,000 to a guy who had only texted her “hello” and hadn’t even asked her for money or anything.
We have posted many articles about being careful as you meet people online.