I wish I had done more research prior to my involvement with my ex-fiancÃ©e. In any event, it was me, (me being a masochist) who actually wanted to have it be not passionate, however, he always knew exactly what to do. I tried to tell him in a constructive way that maybe he should have the medication adjusted, and he would take pot shots at me, blaming me. Mine never said he was suicidal but did spent the night in a crisis center when I broke it off with him the first time and then told me about it after the fact. I just sort of blew it off because I hadnât been with someone that was bipolar before. Everyone told me to let him go, because I was in pain with his ups and down. Itâs been 15 months since our breakup and we only went out 10 months and I am still reeling from it. He wonât allow me to love him and he wonât accept it.
So ignorant comment like yours need to change I think that's a very unfair characterization of all people with Bipolar Disorder. One person does not make us all looney and controlling like this man. I am a bi-polar woman and while I have had problems with relationships, the person you are describing above does not sound like a bi-polar to me. I too have been victimised but because of my vulnerability as someone with a mental health condition. I went into a deep depression after our breakup and became suicidal for 4 months. I have been looking for someone like you to talk to for 15 months now. I think thatâs why he would post on the porn web site. I have never ever had sex be more passionate and intense the way that sex was with him. Once when he came over for the weekend he said to me, âwe arenât going to have sex all weekend are we?
I am sorry you had to go through all of that but some of us do seek therapy and take our medications and know our triggers and know how we get. He may have said he had been diagnosed bi-polar but deliberate cruelty and undermining of a partner is not how bi-polars are in general. For you to advise people to turn and run rather than have a relationship with a bi-polar SUFFERER is nasty on your part. People who know me, would tell you that is very unusual for me, because I am very upbeat, positive person, always optomistic. I have met a lot of parents, friends, husbands and wives on line regarding their stories, but yours is so similar to mine. It was bad and he wanted others to know he was doing a bad thing. In any event, it was me, (me being a masochist) who actually wanted to have it be not passionate, however, he always knew exactly what to do. =( I really exhausted him physically now that I think about it. Thatâs all we ever do.â what guy says something like that?
Ironically he refused talk therapy as a way to deal with his illness 33.) constantly was negative and often wrote me e-mails in which he would put me, my family or daughter down.
34.) often brought up how much he hated his ex girlfriends 35.) constantly berated me for not doing things I said I would do and how I never thought about him 36.) often complained he âgave moreâ to others and expected nothing in return, when in reality he made note of it 37.) constantly complained we only did things I enjoyed, and I never thought about him 38.) he spent the night at a crisis center when I first broke it off with him, only 3 months into dating 39.) cried and begged me back 40.) was addicted to on line dating and would post on multiple dating sites even while engaged 41.) expected me to appear at certain events even after he broke up with me and became enraged when I didnât.
It was painful, and out of control and there was nothing I could do about it. When he knew I wanted sex, he always made an effort, even if he was tired or sleepy.--except when we were ending. He took showers with me a lot, but did prefer his privacy at times...
In the end, I said I wanted out and he threw me and my daughter out of the streets with no where to go. =( I really exhausted him physically now that I think about it. But if I asked him to shower with me, he never turned me down. Towards the end he became suicidal, talking about hating his life and wanting to die.He said it was funner having women want him sexually but not giving into them.54.) told me he would commit suicide if either one or both of his parents died 55.) told me constantly he didnât think anyone could be as supportive and loving as his parents had been in his life 56.) said I would end up leaving like all the rest this went on for 10 long months.I am hoping by posting this I will help someone else before they subject themselves to the pain that many of us have or are still enduring by loving someone with the terrible illness.Here is my story: I met my ex-fiancÃ©e on a dating web site.It wasnât until after all was said and done that I did everything I could to read up on this disorder. I would therefore caution anyone reading your post to approach all relationships-including those with Bipolars-with due caution and allow the other individual to present his/her individual self without preemptive stereotypes and judgments. I cannot image what he would be like without the drugs. I too wonder if there isnât some âpersonality disorderâ that went undiagnosed. I have been seeing my therapist for over 2 years now, and ironically it was my ex that suggested I see someone, since he accused me of being bipolar quite frequently.