” “Being in love” often means infatuation, romance, and high chemistry – things that are essentially selfish.
This type of “love” is not a good reason to get married, but friendship is. Real love is about giving to and caring about another person’s life.
I know this doesn’t sound very romantic, but it’s very realistic.
Couples often mistake good chemistry for good communication.
Just because you can talk for hours on the phone and feel very connected, doesn’t mean you have good communication.
The only way you know if you have good communication is when you have problems.
” Gary Chapman in his book, The Five Love Languages, suggests that each of us has a dominant love language or emotional need that makes us feel loved when another “speaks” that language to us. It’s about taking on responsibility and being a giver. The cruelest thing a wife can do is nag her husband. Spiritual compatibility is one of the best ways to insure you’ll grow together.
They are: gifts, quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation, and physical touch. Judaism understands that the essence of being a man is to give and provide. If he’s a good man and he’s trying hard, give him your love, not your list of demands. This means you are on the same page in terms of your values, priorities, and life goals.
With the person you’re considering marrying you must be sure you feel safe.
How do you know if the two of you are emotionally open and honest?
When you’re getting serious about someone, don't ask: “Are we in love?